He has knocked up his girlfriend.
She is keeping the baby.
The game now changes…
A long overdue update: After figuring out that the weirdos he lived with in southern Illinois were real weirdos after all, and that he is NOT in fact gay, nor does he wish to hang out with gay people, and after living for a couple of weeks like this, as well as with mice and roaches in their small, filthy apartment, he begged me to come get him. This was about a month ago. The whole time he was there he was talking and texting to his girl up here, and the second he got back they got together and apparently made a baby. Now mind you, he does NOT live with me. I would still not allow this. He found a friend up here who would take him in and he lives in a townhouse with him, which is about 45 minutes away from me. Just far enough to not piss me off on a regular basis – LOL.
I have NOT seen ANY evidence of him using drugs whatsoever. In fact, he has had a 180 degree mind-shift since getting out of prison this time. He tells me things like, “I never even think about heroin, except when you mention it, and then its only to think about how much I do NOT ever want to do that again.” Of his girlfriend he says, “I don’t ever want to be without her”. He has NEVER said that about any girl – not even the one he dated for 4 years. This girl comes from a normal house, with a normal family and lives a normal life. Imagine that!!!! He tells me he NEEDS to go to college, and get a degree, and get his license back, and get a car, because he “just wants to give her everything she wants.” He is working – in a restaurant as a dishwasher – but at least it is something! He is on house arrest for another month, so to even find somebody who was willing to give him a job is a HUGE blessing! His boss told him, “I believe in giving people second chances. We are all family here, and I will do anything for any of my employees.” Of his boss, J says, “I have never met a man who is so non-judgmental as him.”
Praise the Lord!!! I cannot even begin to tell you how many times a day I thank God for all of this! I have prayed, and prayed, and prayed for so many years for this hell to just end already! Do I trust him? Nope, not as far as I can throw him! Am I beginning to see SOME maturity, and thoughtful living from him? YES, finally, YES! Glory be!!!!!!!!!!!! Its like suddenly that brain cell showed up!!! And its not just since finding out his girl is pregnant either – he has been like this the whole time since he got out. Maybe two stints in prison has taught him SOMETHING!!
I continue to pray and pray for all of you who are still struggling. May you all have a very Merry Christmas, filled with love and light and laughter, family and friends, and God. Bless you all!